Want to know how to make someone want to be around you all the time? There is a secret that has been whispered for ages and yet so few people actually do it. It is simple and anyone can try it, but not many practice this principle. Therefore, I am inviting you to be different than the crowd and experience real, lasting and worthwhile relationships. If you practice this principle, some people will not get it. They may even try to joke you about it, but they will want to be around you more regardless. Are you ready to hear the secret to gaining friends the first few days of college and for the rest of your life? Ok, here it is....
Be interested in them more than yourself. Focus on complimenting them and not trying to get compliments from them.
Here is how you can try it. Next time you meet someone on campus or just out and about, make it a game to ask them more questions then they ask you. Here are some good ice breaker questions.
Other Freshmen- What is your name? Where are you from? What is it like to live there? Are you glad you are away or do you miss it? What made you choose this school? What is your major? What are you hoping to get out of this first semester?
Upperclassmen- What would you say is the most exciting thing to do around here? Are there any clubs or organizations you would recommend? Do you stay on or off campus and why.
Don’t get me wrong, don’t abuse with question after question, but listen intently and when a moment of silence comes, try to be the first to show you are interested in them by talking about them more. If you ask questions and the person is non-responsive, chances are you aren’t looking for a friendship with them anyway. You want to be around well-rounded students that can talk about more than where the next party is. Also, DON’T FORGET to compliment them. They are the most important person in their world.
I just finished reading a book called “How to Win Friends and Influence People” by Dale Carnegie. I would highly recommend it to those wanting to be successful with people.
this has a lot of good things i'll have to remember the next time i meet someone new to see if it works.
ReplyDeleteI thin this is very true. People will want to have you around if you show you care more about them than yourself. It shows you have respect for other people and not all about yourself.
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